"An unfriendly person pursues selfish ends and against all sound judgment starts quarrels." ~Proverbs 18:1
When around a negatively minded person it is easy to feel drained and slightly depressed. I see those seasoned couples with the nagging wife and a warn down husband. "A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones." ~ Proverbs 17:22. It is easy to recognizing what went wrong and what perpetuates these sad relational interactions; it is easy to say at least I am not like that.
That may be true, but negativity is not just shown outwardly in front of one's husband. It can also be shown through how one talks about their husband to others. Speaking negatively, complaining or gossiping about your husband is a sin which causes others to think negatively of your husband and it permeates your mental and emotional attitude toward him.
I have heard that negativity isn't always there from the start; in most cases it starts with a knock on the door and creeps in slowly thought by thought; once you open the door a crack, unless you surrender the thoughts to God, they will rule you. That one thought or dwelling on that one mistake can snowball into passive aggressive, audible mumbling instead of communication through love. I have had my moments in this realm and if I don't surrender these thoughts they would indefinitely lead me to outward public displays of negativity embarrassing myself and my husband.
Our perceptions of our husbands will effect our mood and demeanor, creating a positive or negative home environment. We are called to be a crown and a blessing to our husband not a drain or embarrassment. "A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones." ~ Proverbs 12:4
That may be true, but negativity is not just shown outwardly in front of one's husband. It can also be shown through how one talks about their husband to others. Speaking negatively, complaining or gossiping about your husband is a sin which causes others to think negatively of your husband and it permeates your mental and emotional attitude toward him.
I have heard that negativity isn't always there from the start; in most cases it starts with a knock on the door and creeps in slowly thought by thought; once you open the door a crack, unless you surrender the thoughts to God, they will rule you. That one thought or dwelling on that one mistake can snowball into passive aggressive, audible mumbling instead of communication through love. I have had my moments in this realm and if I don't surrender these thoughts they would indefinitely lead me to outward public displays of negativity embarrassing myself and my husband.
Our perceptions of our husbands will effect our mood and demeanor, creating a positive or negative home environment. We are called to be a crown and a blessing to our husband not a drain or embarrassment. "A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones." ~ Proverbs 12:4
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